WHEN MY NAME BECAME MY FATHER'S NAME
Why would a Motuan mother call her husband by the name of their first-born child?
In this personal cultural reflection, Mea Vai returns to a childhood expression that once seemed completely ordinary: his mother calling his father “Mea Tamana” - Mea's father. Similar memories of “Dai Tamana” and “Konio Tamana” reveal a wider pattern and lead to the anthropological concept of teknonymy - identifying a parent through a child.
The story explores the possibility that, in Motuan life, the first-born child did more than receive a name. That child created a new relationship and, in doing so, gave the parents a new social identity.
Drawing together family memory, first-born responsibility, respect, Hiri traditions and the deeply relational character of Motuan society, this Sene story reflects on the quiet ways culture survives in everyday speech and behaviour.
A thoughtful read for Motu-Koitabu families, Papua New Guineans, students of culture and anyone interested in how identity is shaped through family and relationships.
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